Again
Problems :) :)
I even
mailed to my Wife mentioned I never fought with her parents, this what happened
as whole conversations. She never believed as her mother mentioned as I fought
with them over the phone and they can get the recordings by using CB-CID
police.:) MIL told me also as they got phone recordings of the conversations about my sister marriage, I told her yes you
can sent it to your daughter let her hear those things.
Here, I
may include one more story. When my marriage nearing, I asked for loan from my
sister for 1 lakh and told her to I can return when I get my bonus. I
anticipated in a month. She told me that she don’t have that much money. I left
it. But ugly thing she did was asked for money to my In-laws (three days before
marriage) as I needed money. Before marriage, MIL even mentioned to me as she
have money if needed I can get from her. Even Wife mentioned if needed I can
get money from her mom and return it back. Like the same MIL said to my sister
also, so she asked casually. MIL mentioned to my sister as she don’t have it
right now. Later when I had a telephonic conversation about my sister marriage
this thing came up as my sister asked for money. I mentioned it should not
happen, it happened without my knowledge.
So called
middle man (Girls Uncle) came and made a compromise over the phone saying that
girls parents wrongly intervening on my finance and they should not talk about
my sister marriage and all.
He
mentioned that Girl is ready to come with me, and he told me to take her with
me to to Bangalore initial some days let her stay with hostel later you
people can stay together in house like…, So called compromise.
Later,
when three days continuous holiday myself and my wife planned for some outing
kind of. Yes, she bunked office and we went to Pondy by bike. When I was
talking about outing plan with her sister (her big mom’s daughter) she also
wanted to join with us. I told this to my Wife, she mentioned we are going out
like our second honeymoon and we had lot of problems earlier so we should go
with privacy.
I had
booked for Resort in her name. When we travelled half the way we came to know
that she missed her wallet. I told her it’s not a matter we can check with the
hotel and will plan with some other arrangements. She mentioned you are sweet,
if it was her dad she will get lot of scolding for this.
All these
time, I never talked about past incidents to my Wife. MIL said to my mom as I
am mentally not well, I told about this to my Wife and she also said yes we
should go for hospital to have a counselling for that. (Yes, MIL and my wife
said mentally I am not well) I have arranged for a family counselling through
my office, I told my wife as counselling for myself.
To the
family counsellor I was explaining the things as her parents talking in this
way, and she is fighting with me like.
Family
counsellor advising both saying in early stage of marriage these kind of
problem may arise, as of now both should not think about their families and we
should think about future and enjoy the present like. ., lot of advises about
money, family.
But, she
fought once we are out of the counselling centre itself saying how I can talk
about her parents to unknown person. She was fighting so rigorously in road.
Somehow managed that day.
Next day,
I tried to explain my entire financial situation to her with my Expense Sheet
(Yes monthly budget plan with all my financials, Loans, Expenses, Credit Cards,
Share markets).
I was
explaining everything by logging into the bank sites. She even said I should
explain all this to her father like how I explaining. When I started showing
about my insurance. She started enquired about my term insurance, which I was
about to explain next to Savings insurance. She started fighting as I could
have taken insurance for my sister benefit, why not LIC like ., She started fighting
desperately as I am caring my sister too much like. She fought very much
different that day (Beating on herself, as we were staying in Guest house, she
locked the room and beating on herself with hangers, I could not control her).
Finally
vacated, and again in road she fighting a lot I was keep quite (Don’t wanted to
make her angry by saying something) I thought she will realize in time. She
fought a lot in roads and beating herself with stones, wood sticks etc.,
Accidently,
I got hit and she started crying for that as she beaten me :) :(
Finally,
I tried to make her cool asked what she really want. She told me that she
wanted to scold my sister. (I thought I can at least manage my sister later)
she scolded my sister from my phone. And finally I left her with her sister and
back to Bangalore.
I was not
talking with her as well, simply hi hello like alone. Meantime, she got
transfer as well. I helped her to shift her luggage to Bangalore. Initially, we
had a plan to move her into hostel.
From
Chennai we took her luggage and reached Bangalore and stayed in a hotel. When
staying in hotel we discussed and decided to take a home to avoid unnecessary
shifting later. We have seen few houses, she liked one house but it’s far from
bus stop I mentioned you need to go office by bus so we need something nearby
bus stop. Luckily, we got one house nearby the hotel we stayed. Discussed with
house owner and shifted to new house. I have arranged for Advance from my
sister and not mentioned to my Wife as I got from my sister and informed as I
took from my mother. So new house, we went for shopping and bought some cooking
materials and yes we boiled milk(One of my other sister came for that day as
she came to attend interview).
Four Days
of Family LIFE :) :D
She
cooked me dinner also (she don’t know much cooking, still we both were cutting
vegetables and had our dinner)
Yes, next
day when I starting for office I got offered for Bread and tea.
Sometimes,
after a phone call she will simply fight, I am clueless why and for what? I can
remember, she hasn’t fought when her father over call discussing about Gas
Cylinder.
She
mentioned that she needed the utensils which is given by her parents otherwise
those will be used by my mom and sis. (It was two silver plates, two silver
tumbler one silver vessel :D :( :) ).
I
arranged a driver to take few items from hometown, asked driver to come Chennai
as we planned to take remaining luggage’s of her from Chennai.
We have
ordered fridge, washing machine over online. We had few conversations about
future and finance as well. Meantime, I can remember she started fighting for
something, I mentioned as like you missed your wallet when we went for Pondy my
sister not had a wallet to pay that 8500 Rs. She fought for some time later I
went with her to bus stop and she left for office, I was in leave. She messaged
me in afternoon as sorry and I should go out and take lunch.
Over
these times, I never talked with her parents as well.
Once we
reached Chennai on weekend to pick up rest of her belongings. I dropped her to
her relative's house for refreshing and I went to my friend house.
I got a call from my MIL, she was saying to me as her daughter is not
happy, I should buy an AC as Bangalore is hot (Yes, it’s hot and it was May). I
replied, yup I will manage.
I
informed this to my Wife as her mother talked with me. Oh god, I never expected
she started fighting for that saying how can you talk with my mom
>>>> Again this time, different fighting strategy,
she started beating me on the road, she don’t had money still she walking on
the roads. I was following her saying at least, take money go wherever you
wanted to go. She was fighting all over the road around three kms. Luckily one
traveller on road stopped by and advised both. I arranged her relatives to take
her. She broken my phone as well.
Love and
Life :D :)
Night got
a call from MIL, she mentioned that whatever my Wife did is wrong, and I should
take her to Bangalore. I told her, all problems between us are because of you
peoples only. I will take her if she really wanted to come, she should talk
with me not you.
I got a
call from my Wife, she apologized and mentioned that she fighting because of
the Love she have on me L
She told
me that she loves me more than anything in this world, and she got spoiled
because of her parent’s hatred towards me L. She told me that I am not
giving priority to her instead I am giving priority for my family.
And she
mentioned that even if I am not ready to accept her as Wife also, she is ready
to stay in our Bangalore house as a third person. I tried explaining that both
family (my family and her family) are ours we should not fight for chilly
reasons and all and told her next day morning we should talk before we go
Bangalore. But, she was out of her relatives house and standing with suitcase.
I was forced to take her with me.
