Marriage Date and Starting of
Life:
Before
the marriage date itself, I don’t had a good talking with MIL. But the girl
told me that she is in so much love with me and if they stop marriage also we
can ran away and marry like that.
I haven’t
participated in any marriage arrangements as I am away working in Bangalore and
thought its better they can arrange everything. I left it in their hands. Yes.
They arranged all and I should accept its good arrangements. And I
informed to take care of Tambula Bag, previous night to marriage day when none
of my friends nearby, I used MIL school students to pack the tambula bag. I was
questioned for that through girl. And same day evening reception time, when my
brother not ready to come to stage I thought someone said something to him. I
told to my Wife, seems someone told something to him. later found it’s
from my relative side. (* But later I got accused in fight, as I
accused her mom for that. I never said who said what also, but I was accused as
I tortured the girl in that matter)
Girl
called me in midnight before marriage and cried as she was scolded (As I used
MIL students to pack tambula bag, after marriage two three days also I got
words for that incident).
As I
don’t have father my father brother did all rituals as a parent. But later only
heard that my uncle not even greeted or talked by girl family on the marriage
day, they know each other before as well. *(when girl fought with
me desperately one day, i dropped her in home. that day only they
again called my uncle to complaint about me).
Another
story, as my school friends who came for marriage met with accident
after drinks that too with my car. *(Later now only came to know with this
reason, girl father tried to cancel the marriage saying it’s not good sign to
my mom. but crowd started coming into the hall, he hasn’t done anything)
When
taking photographs, photographer asked to give lot of poses. When I keeping my
hands on her, she was afraid and said FIL is looking take out the hands like.
And, when photographer asked her to tie hands, she asked photographer why
always girl should tie hands, why can’t me. So, somehow, marriage got over.
After
marriage we went to Girl home, and we got arranged for a suite room in a hotel.
We started our life. Next day morning, my Wife got call from her mother. And
she was questioned as how was the experience with some intimate questions. She
was answering everything. I warned my Wife, how come you can answer all these
questions, don’t share everything. She told me that, her mother checking
whether she is happy or not that’s why these questions and all. I never cared that,
I almost forget that at all.
But, Next
day MIL talked in double meaning as I am strong like :P :( :) .
When we
were on the way to register office to register the marriage, MIL talked as she
could have chosen some better person for her daughter. That time my Wife was
saying to her mother, why I got good person like. L L L :D
When we
planned for a trip outside country, and we had a small function to change
Mangalyaam, I have asked car to go to gold smith, he refused to give car, so we
went by two wheeler and changed mangalyaam to gold. When we starting to
airport, Girl made a comment to her mother as “going on flight; you never went
into airport at all”. MIL went out of my home and not ready to participate on
function at all. Initial plan is to drop us in airport, but MIL was not ready
to come to airport and she simply got down in the road, so FIL also got down.
Finally, we went to airport to catch a flight. In Airport, immigration
officials was enquiring a lot and asked how to believe that you people got
married, I have shown marriage invitation but again he was saying this can be
printed by anyone. Then he talked with FIL and we got exit from Airport.
After we
reached destination, I got a message saying that it’s FIL, how can you fight
with MIL and I am doing something to separate the girl from her parents. (I
don’t think that this message is from FIL as he never uses whatsup). In the
trip, when I met with my friend over abroad just made a comment that girl
father not even ready to give car. My Wife fought with me for that comment. *(But,
later came to know that my friend whom we met got scolding message from my Wife
in April 10th for no
reason, I never asked to her why did you do that to her, I thought she is in so
much stress don’t want to make her guilty by asking this. Now thinking whether
she is mentally not well? How come she can scold an unknown person for no
reason, thank god she had only that friend number only JJ )
Once we
back to India, my mom told me that, MIL never talked after we left India, and
she never attended phone calls also, so night when myself and my Wife going to
movie I asked about this. She told me that her mom is not well so not talked. I
asked again how come she has not talked to my mom alone. She talked with you
when we were out also. (Even, once we reached india she was talking over phone to
her mother long time.) Same day, I even told her I asked this with you only.
Don’t share this with your mother at all. Next day we dropped MIL in her school
and all, I never know anything. Once I reach my home my sister was fighting
with me saying what I did wrong. As her mother talking about divorce. *(MIL
talked with my sister about this, and told that seems not good it’s better to
get divorce). But, my Wife seeing that understood that my sister fighting with
me for something.